the discussion has began for discharge out of the psych ward next week, so let's remain in that sunny parting of clouds on a rainy day frame of mind. it was a dark and rainy day when i was driving back home after the meetings with various people and spending several hours with my daughter today. i felt myself smiling as i drove. damn, i was smiling.
she is still talking, thank goodness. i had a long talk with the doctor today and it was a good talk about quality of life, medications, vitamins and how some people have few visitors. he commented to me and said some people have visitors, but "you are her heartbeat". i know my daughter is a remarkable person, and she deserves the world.
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Yes she does. I hope things continue to progress so that she is discharged next week. I will continue to send prayers and positive energy your way.
Stephany,
Thank you very much for the hard work!
Your blog deserves to be recognized as one of the best.
Love,
Ana
thank you Lola, i'm hoping it all keeps moving positively
I am so happy.
And that picture is lovely.
Steph-I will be praying for all things good.
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It sounds as though you've got a doc who's more of a "glass is half full" type. That's quite rare - quite rare to hear of, anyway.
I had a thought on the psychosis thing... When Linds is having a rant, especially at you, ask her in as measured a voice as you can manage "I don't understand, please slow down and repeat that?" And if she carries on, then repeat yourself. She's revisiting an event(s), I think. Also, I think that event(s) terrified her, and she's now reacting with anger to (what she sees as), similar situations, unsurprisingly. That's not inappropriate - it's logical. But there are billions of different ways to react to stuff, and I think that once she's been allowed to get angry about these things, she should be allowed to see that there are other, more measured approaches available.
I'm writing as though I'm correct in my assumptions, when I can't possibly know any of this. However, when people get "angry," there's very rarely anything "real" about it - in a way, they're revisiting a time when they were powerless to stop events unfolding and maybe they've had their autonomy denied, or something. Once one allows them to explain, and gifts them additional insight and resources, they're able to move on.
Does that make sense? There's nothing knew in this, of course - I think I've mentioned Penny Parks' Inner Child Theory, before.
Matt
thanks Ana, Susan, Noe Noe and Matt!
wow I am beyond tired!
Going there every day to see her is important for her in many ways to see her number one...and then when i am there i can catch ppl for discussions w/out formal meetings set up, which is how Ive been able to keep pushing for her independence and watch diligently for any "news" that she might be sent to the instiution, because many have since she arrived there. each week i work with the attorney, and talk to the doctor and it's a lot of work in the end to advocate like this w/out getting emotional in there.
i've pressed the issue with higher ups about not placing expectations of that weird 'mute as baseline' bullshit, and basically stood my ground on that and making sure they realize everyone deserves a chance at freedom. (discharge)
so, a lot depends on L now too, for her to keep herself on the path to getting out of there, no risky behavior in their book etc.
seriously still feel strange like it's an escape from jail.
i'll breathe a sigh of relief once she's in my car next week after we walk out of that place!
I;m soexcited for you that your daughter is being considered for discharge. This will be an amazing milestone!
Hi Stephany,
Great news hope you and her can walk out of there next week.
Hope everything goes well.
Love,
Herrad
Many blessings I am new but you sound awesome.
Thanks PB and Herrad, and lili,
it's a great thing, she's appearing to look better too, all around positive.
It's funny about anger.
It's definitely a release, at least the simple form.
The other, more 'social' forms, like resentment and betrayal, are something else.
The anger based in the 'now' can go and does go easily. The anger based in the past does not, necessarily.
Another big emotion involved in powerlessness is fear.
Having one's autonomy denied is so ... infuriating!
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